David Olinsky left this nugget of a solution as a comment here:
export COPY_EXTENDED_ATTRIBUTES_DISABLE=true
UPDATED: as well as this attribute, introduced in Leopard as noted by nzight:
export COPYFILE_DISABLE=true
Thank goodness! Now stick those in your .bash_profile...
Oh and to remove those blasted files:
> find . -iname '._*' -exec rm -rf {} \;